The first step, and this is a biggie, is to stop doing all the things that contribute to that false sense of self because if you change your thoughts you change your future. The way we live tends to be more like some low-budget horror film rather than us scripting a blockbuster life. We are immersed in our habits of thought and habits of behavior that result in the same old results. Were transmitting our thought patterns by wearing our thinking the way we wear our clothes. Gurus will tell you to act joyful and successful and that affirmations lead to success well, maybe for some people it kind of works because it interrupts the negative thought process but it isnt a formula to an extended state of awareness. Awareness will cut through a lot of false starts and misguided thinking. If we can remain aware in the moment we can get a sense of liberation because our thoughts almost always seem to hold us back.
Choose the goals that make you rich? So-called success experts love to talk about goals goals dont motivate unless they are somehow anchored to your core, that place where you emotionally live. It doesnt matter what youre aiming at, if mother nature has the wind against you, your arrow is going to have a tough time making the target. You are the star of your own movie, and characters in movies have jobs so if theres anything to focus on, its creating an enjoyable life while creating a living. Life is unscripted, so all kinds of good and not so good situations can arise at any particular time. If your whole life was scripted and you knew in advance what would occur, it would probably be even more boring. So when you tell the story of your life, it will only be as interesting as how you go about it.
Next in the guru handbook is to say we must make the effort on our goals to bring home the zillions. Its too limiting to be chained to goals; the marketplace determines the ultimate value, not your goals. If the focus is on sending out our ideas into the marketplace I think its a better fit. What you get back may not be in line with your goals, but then again, it might be the wisdom of the marketplace whispering something valuable to you. There are a lot of people that talk about going into business for themselves but they forget one key element, if you are in business for yourself, you have a sales job.
Then we get to the feel good stuff where the answer to getting ahead is to constantly be around people who make you rich and happy. I think the point is missed, isnt this simply, go where the money is? If you are hanging around people that have millions of dollars at their disposal it stands to reason, even if they are not pleasant, that if they can direct you to obtain some lucrative business, that is the key to you getting worthwhile business through their network of contacts. People want attention, they crave it, and any attention to most people is better than none.
Keeping score, all these so-called experts bring up having a budget. Some people are accustomed to spending their money, not counting it. So, I wont disagree when the gurus preach that spending money is a habit and that your debt is only a reflection of your habit and misguided thinking. Almost everything is a habit. Thought habits are everywhere. We do a lot of things simply because we are used to doing them. Often there is no analysis. There are excuses and rationalizations, but generally nothing relying on logical choices. But at the same time, we dont want to think about every little thing, thats why we have habits, and if habits can harm you, habits can serve you.