How do you know if hes the one? Hell be there for you on your worst day. If you cant see him there on a bad day, such as a death in the family, he isnt the one. According to Star Jones Reynolds, here are four other ways you can tell if hes the one: Does he keep you company? Does he gentle his criticisms? Does he push buttons to get you mad and hurt your feelings? Does he love and respect his mom or the women in his life? You may disagree with me on this one, but a man who treats other women kindly, especially his mother, is usually a nice person. Thats important to Star. I checked on the Half website to see what the book is selling for, 75 cents (the minimum) in all conditions. My guess is that it isnt worth much to the reader but here are some tidbits so you can save time and avoid reading the book.
Relationships: If I can get it right with God, I sure ought to be able to get it right with anyone I care about. “God, I have not always done the best with the resources that you have provided me. Ive made poor decisions in my finances. Ive allowed my desire for pretty things to overcome my desire to take care of my long-term needs, but I finally put myself in such a position that I have gotten my credit in order. I have another opportunity, a second chance, and this is a blessing. Please bless me again and help me to learn from my mistakes.”
Do we have to be perfect to find that perfect peace?
I know Im not there yet. I have so many weaknesses that block the way to that kind of spiritual completeness. For example, I know God is still working on me getting out of my own way. (Thats a great comment. Becoming the best you is a noble endeavor but even celebrities dont have the answer.)
The happy route to change: Fail safe-ways to rev up your lifestyle
According to Star Jones Reynolds, the following are fine ways to become the best you can be and truly get ready to meet love and romance around the next corner. If youve gotten this far in the book, youve changed your life already: you now know how to assess yourself, look deeply inward, and figure out places you can change for the best. (I dont see how she drew this conclusion, there is nothing life-changing or compelling to speak of becoming the best.)
Make a decision to change one thing – only one at a time – write down your intention, give yourself a time span in which to accomplish your goal. (There are too many people pushing goal setting as a solution, it might work well in business but it doesnt work well with personal life if all people had to do was set goals and achieve them wouldnt the world be so much better for everyone? Or perhaps it wouldnt matter because mega-success, life-changing super-performance doesnt arise from goals.)
Follow through with action. Just do it. When youre satisfied that youve made a change that will probably last, tackle another area. Keep track of your progress in a journal. Date each entry.
Bring in a second or third party, a trusted witness to your action. (I dont know if this works well, if you surround yourself with people that you know well, theyre stuck in the same kinds of situations you are in. Wouldnt it be better to get direct help from someone already doing well in the area you want to improve?)
Reevaluate yourself in three months. (If you wait that long, youve waited up to 89 days too long to see that you have failed. People probably need a daily or weekly review
isnt that what the journal is for? When you get homework it gets checked the next day
thats how performance is measured.)
Fail-safe ways to rev up your lifestyle:
1. Take a calculated risk
2. Trust your intuition
3. Practice mindfulness
4. Choose your friends: dont settle for being chosen
5. Give back
6. Meditate
7. Find an intercessor – Someone to pray for you, a double prayer approach.
8. Celebrate yourself – If you dont love you, who will? So bask in the glory of who you are and who you will become.
9. Finally- the premarital solution – Doesnt it make sense to spend a little more time before the marriage ceremony finding out how to discuss differences in ways that actually strengthen a relationship and make intimacy-well, more intimate? Heres a statistic: the number one predictor of divorce is the constant avoidance of conflict. Couples who dont know how to handle conflict eventually just shut down. (What statistic? Where is Star Jones getting this? Conflict is an inherent part of life. A girl approached me as I had the book open. She wouldnt bother reading it and said that Star was caught up in love and now shes divorced.)
Marital absolutes:
A wife is like a mirror in which a man sees himself.
A woman finds security is a mans consistency.
A woman wants a man to be decisive, strong, and consistent.
A woman determines a mans strength by his gentleness.
A mans kindness is what makes him attractive to a woman.
Id found the best me. If youve read this book, you will be ready soon. I know it. I feel you fulfilling your potential. I feel you growing. You can be so fine if you just put your mind to it. You will shine. (I dont think you will. The group of people selling the book online for less than a dollar speaks for itself. Becoming the best you is a noble endeavor but lets refrain from paying celebrities to show us their wisdom.)